West Side Stories

A Tosa resident for almost 20 years, Karen is a mom and freelance writer, addicted to playing tennis. When not on the tennis court, she spends the fall and winter in the stands at Green Bay Packer and Marquette basketball games.

Karen is the author of “Grab a Bite,” a dining out column and the former community columnist for the Wauwatosa NOW newspaper.

Melancholy Mom

Reminiscing, Technology, Kids

Today’s new moms have it pretty good. I was at a baby shower recently and was amazed by the incredible new inventions (the Pee-pee Teepee), conveniences (the Diaper Genie) and designer diaper bags. (My diaper bag looked like ugly luggage.) Plus, new moms have the internet and sites like Milwaukee Moms, which I can only assume is a lifesaver when you’re hunkered down alone with a colicky baby.

Not to sound old, but back when my kids were babies, I was just grateful for cable television, especially at 2:00 am. Gosh, that was so long ago.

When I think back, I remember that even 20 years ago, like today, there were lots of books about how to take care of a baby, raise a toddler and survive the terrible twos. Today, I’m sure a lot of moms also access the internet for such advice.

Well, you know what is still lacking in the motherhood “how-to” department? How to “let go.” I’m convinced that there are no books on how to “let go” because nobody really knows how to do it. Honestly, it’s nearly impossible.

This weekend, my son will graduate from college. I’m a jumbled mess of mixed and melancholy emotions. I’m bursting with pride and hoping that somehow he’ll find a job in this shaky economy. But buried underneath that is the knowledge that it’s time to step aside and let him go it alone. If you’re a young parent, this might sound like bliss. Nothing is further from the truth. I have no idea how to prepare myself for that moment when we bid farewell. I’ve been so busy looking out for him, that I’m at a total loss and in a state of denial. It’s ironic that this is all happening on Mother’s Day weekend. Almost a cruel twist of fate.

I welcome any and all advice from parents who have successfully navigated these waters. That’s the best way to get through moments like that.

In the meantime, I hope you don't mind if I share a project that my son did for school, all completely created (including music) and performed by him. Enjoy!


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